What God Showed Me About Sex
When the Popular Dating Culture and God's Word Collide
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When I became a Christian, I wanted to rip Matthew 5:27-32 out of the bible. I wanted to believe that maybe Jesus did not mean what he'd said about sex, so I tried to reinterpret his words. Nowadays, he would be teaching something else — times have changed during the last two thousand years, right? And we know a lot more about sex nowadays, right? And we developed responsibility, right? We can deal with sex in the right way now, right? So why not just do it?
Know what? I learned that all these ideas are lies.
I've been with my girlfriend for about a year now. She was a Christian from the start. We did not sleep together, but other than that we did about everything one could imagine a woman and a man would do in a bed except for sexual intercourse.
Four weeks ago — shortly after I became a Christian — God hit us over our heads with the bible and made clear to us that it was no joke when Jesus said that we have to gouge it out like an eye. And what's more, he did not only give us a rule to obey. He made very clear to us WHY it is so important to obey this law!
Satan is not creative. He does not invent new things. But what he does all the time is try to change the rules God gave us with his great gifts. He sets up new rules for our sexuality. He tells us that it is very right to be horny all the time. And that it is perfectly okay and healthy to feel lust whenever and towards whoever we want to, and that it even is more healthy and perfectly okay to act it out in every way we want to.
But have you ever looked closer on the results of this satanic understanding of sexuality? First of all it takes us further away from God. Anyone ever tried to pray after masturbating? I could never even try to get in contact with God after it.
And can you see what else is happening? Abuse of children, rape, jealousy, greed, etc. The list dosen't end. And do you know what list that is? It is the devils' list of success.
But for me and my girlfriend, there was something else that made very clear to us what our so called "easy-going-very-okay-perfectly-healthy-sexuality" really was.
At God's prompting, we confessed all of our previous sexual and deep emotional relationships to each other. Can you imagine, how hurtful this process is? I can guarantee that no one can endure this without the mercy of God and Jesus standing beside you to hold your hand. But how come it hurts when it was all so healthy and perfectly okay before?
Well, that is easy. We are eternal beings. A man and his woman are one flesh. Every sexual or deep emotional relationship one has before he marries is a betrayal of his or her later eternal partner. We give something away that only belongs to Him. This is the most important reason why our chaotic sexuality ends up being so hurtful.
The good news of course is that God knows about that and fixes it! I never felt his mercy so strongly before.
There is another important lie about sexuality which comes directly from Satan. I was afraid of changing our relationship from a sexual one to a non-sexual one, because Satan kept telling me that our relationship would lose depth if we abstained from sex. I think this is something most people think — that there is no really deep relationship between women and men without sex.
Well, after we started to abstain from sexual behavior... [Continue]